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Building Confidence: What Should You Be?

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Question: What is the best personality or the best identity for you to assume?

Answer: Anything you want to be! A cheerful friend, a businesslike executive, a caring listener. Whatever is best at the time. Different circumstances require different attitudes.

For example, to be a bossy manager at work might be appropriate, but you might drive your spouse crazy if the identity continues at home. To be a rowdy sports fan at a game is great, but not what you should be when asking for a raise.

The reason people have trouble determining who or what they should BE is because they don’t start with HAVE.

Children in the West are commonly asked `What are you going to BE when you grow up?’ It is a silly question and can drive any child up the wall. Because it’s the wrong question—hits the wrong end of the cycle.”